15 best ways of embracing Self-love & benefits

Embracing Self-love is crucial in everybody’s life. In today’s busy life, the many demands of balancing everything may cause individuals get consumed with meeting these demands that they lack time for themselves. When you lack time for yourself, you forget to love yourself or even practice self-care as you should. Self-love improves how you relate with others and it comes with tons of benefits.

 As a mother of three, I once got so caught up in the daily demands of family life, that balancing between work and family got so overwhelming leaving no time for myself. I am not a person who will ask for help often and I tend to do most of the work. Luckily, a friend noticed some negative changes in me. She helped me rebuild the love for myself and that is where my journey to rebuilding self-love started. Gradually, I embraced self-love and I am happy I got the kind of help I needed.

There are various changes you can notice in a person that can make you conclude a person lacks self-love. These changes can be triggered by either unhealthy choices or what we surround ourselves with.

This blog is to help you also know the importance and benefits of self-love and ways of exercising and embracing it for better, healthier life.

What does embracing self-love mean?

Embracing Self-love is putting yourself first. It’s appreciating your worth and treating yourself with respect, kindness, and care. You can only do this after understanding yourself better. I love how brain and behavior explains what individuals think self-love is. Self-love is spending time on the things that bring you joy and happiness, focusing on your life goals and don’t forget to have this sweet relationship with yourself today and every day.

 Embracing Self-love is not about selfishness or being self-centered and I think you should lay this open to those around you as you start this journey. Embracing self-love will make you enjoy a healthier and happy life and happier relationships.

reasons why people don’t embrace self-love

You or someone around you may have noticed some changes in you and realizing it, is the first step to your turnaround. Starting a self-love journey can be a challenge, but practicing it daily will get you there, and gradually, you’ll start enjoying the long-term benefits.

Unhealthy relationships: If you’ve had chaotic and toxic relationships, either in your workplace, with friends, family or the one between you and your partner, then this may make you devalue yourself and make you hate yourself.

Poor communication skills – having poor communication skills like how to express yourself effectively – may make you always feel misunderstood or unheard, and this may lead to lack of self-love.

Failure -means trying something, like a business or an investment or anything you highly anticipated will work out but failed you down. This can make you feel like a total failure and lack self-love.

Dissatisfaction with one’s appearance -This often breeds discontent, fueling self-love deficiencies. Also, trying to lose weight or gain weight with no results may make you hate yourself even more.

 Financial constraints: a lack of money is another main cause of why you may feel like you don’t love yourself. This is due to a lack of contentment in the current situation.

Hypervigilance -means extreme care, caution, or alertness. It may make you feel like you’re not always treating others the right way. This may lead to hating yourself. Allow yourself to shine and accept who you are.

Lack of confidence. You’re not confident in anything you do and keep trying to get positive approvals from others. Negative approvals and sarcasm will only make you unhappy. They cause so much anger and self-hate within you. This may make you over-defensive. For you to be assertive, all you need is boldness. With confidence, you win before even starting.

Being a perfectionist: you always want things done in a very perfect way, and when things don’t go your way, this makes you angry, and it even leads to self-hate.

15 best ways of Embracing self-love

Embracing self-love is a journey, not a one-day destination, and it all starts in the mind. Yes, you don’t feel perfect, but you are perfect the way you are. Saying these words to yourself ,is where the journey of self-love starts.

Here is how you can kick-start this journey of self-love and be a better version of yourself.

1. Sharing your worries. You should talk about your feelings with someone you trust. They should be able to listen. This is the first step you should take, no matter how uncomfortable you feel. You might even consider talking to a therapist.
2. Do not judge yourself: always find value in what makes you different. Your inner critic might reveal how careless or silly you are, but you don’t have to condemn or rebuke yourself too.  Be gentle, love yourself and, don’t judge yourself harshly.
3. Make time for self-check-ins. Show up for yourself every day by booking a daily routine to assess how you’re doing. When this becomes a habit, then you’ll be happy with the results.
4. Be focused– simplifying your life is the golden platter here. Plan and organize all you want to do, maybe daily, weekly, or on monthly basis. Focus on those things and avoid any distractions. In your plan include some you-time and fun time with positive people or activities.
5. Learn when to say no. Learning to say no to some things that you feel forced into. These are things you don’t like doing or places you don’t like to visit. It is a big step to standing with what you believe. Don’t do it because others are doing it or propelling you to do it. Learn to set boundaries.
6. Identify a safe space for your time: Finding a place that feels peaceful and good when you want a breather from life is key. Can your car be that place? Is your bedroom okay with you, or are you thinking of your backyard? Make time, be there, and think about yourself only.
7. Identify things that make you happy. You might consider giving yourself nice treats like a hairdo or a mani-pedi. You could take a bubble bath or a trip alone or with friends. You could also try practicing meditation and mindfulness, reading a book, cooking, volunteering in your local church, or helping the needy. The list is endless but the important thing here is to know what you love to do and do it regularly.
8. Choose a playlist: tough feelings strike and you aren’t ready to get yourself through them. At that time, a cool, heartwarming, motivational, and curated playlist will do you justice and help you lean into self-love.
9. Choose your circle wisely– spend your free time with people who will increase the sense of self-love in you. People who care about you, are supportive, and make you feel good about yourself. Remember, negative criticism is not your thing in this journey.
10. Practice a healthy lifestyle – eat right and healthy, do exercises, and try to avoid bad habits like smoking, drinking, and some other addictions like porn. This habits might skyrocket the sense of self-hate and feeling like you don’t fit in society. Investing in a healthy lifestyle is a form of self-love only if you want to be more productive.
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12.  Understand your emotions: self-love is all about understanding your emotions. Please don’t try to minimize or dismiss your emotions. When you’re happy, anxious, angry, or envious, look at how you react and what causes these feelings. Also, consider what you need to resolve them and get back on track.
13.  Appreciate the little wins: pat yourself on the shoulder and congratulate yourself. Try to always focus on the positives if you’re on a self-love journey.
14. Learn to forgive yourself– Dwelling too much on your past mistakes can hinder you from having an awesome self-love journey. Take those mistakes as a lesson rather than a failure. We are all imperfect but I think the world would be so boring if we all were perfect.
15. Say something nice to yourself in the mirror:  Before you leave your bathroom or bedroom, a small positive self-talk, a smile, and self-encouragement should be your every day pill. You should also practice this at your workplace, on the bathroom mirror.  
16. Treat yourself like you would treat a best friend- think of that one friend you love. If they ever complained about themselves, how bad or unworthy they are, what would you say to them? You would be there for them and their emotions to make them feel better. You would remind them of their good values and qualities despite their imperfections. Do that to yourself too.

Tip: You don’t feel better by feeling bad about yourself.

7 important benefits of embracing self-love.

Embracing and prioritizing self-love comes with tons of benefits. Embracing self-love will help you;

• You will celebrate Your Small Wins: Self-love will help you celebrate your accomplishments and successes no matter how tiny they seem, which in turn boosts your self-esteem.
• You can Challenge negative talk. You start treating yourself with kindness and understanding as if you were treating a friend. Replace your inner critic with encouragement and assertiveness.
• Good overall well-being: self-love generally improves your mental, emotional, and physical health.
• Your circle– Your circle changes when you start loving yourself first, then you’ll be able to surround yourself with people who see and appreciate you for who you are. They’ll always encourage and support you throughout your self-love journey.
• You can set boundaries– Loving yourself means you can set them. You will say, “No, thank you,” to things that make you uncomfortable or that don’t align with your beliefs. You make others treat you with the respect you deserve and set standards for yourself.
• Investing in self-care –Self-care will leave your mind, body and spirit nourished. Self-care is a necessity, and you should prioritize it. You might do some activities like a hairdo or a man-Pedi session, take a bubble bath, a walk or a trip alone or with friends, meditate, or even do a hobby. you will lead a healthy lifestyle by watching what you eat and exercising often.
• You will Embrace your imperfections: – you are unique because of your imperfections and flaws. Imperfections may lead to self-criticism and rebuke but self-love will help you embrace all your imperfections

In conclusion, embracing self-love is a transformative journey that improves every aspect of your life. You will strengthen your deeper connection with yourself by incorporating practical self-love practices like positive affirmations, mindfulness, and setting healthy boundaries. The benefits are profound; better relationships, an overall sense of well-being, and enhanced mental health, Prioritizing self-love will empower you to live a joyful and more fulfilling life.

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